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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything, including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels stuck having the same arguments on repeat, disconnected from your partner, or like you’ve slipped into roommate mode filled with resentment and tension, you’re not alone and your relationship isn’t broken.
Welcome to The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast.
I’m Michelle Purta, mom of 3, marriage coach, and I help couples understand and shift the communication patterns that keep them stuck so they can rebuild connection, strengthen their partnership, and feel like an "us" again.
Each week, you’ll learn how to navigate marriage and motherhood with better communication, emotional awareness, and practical conflict resolution tools that actually work in real life.
We go beyond surface-level advice and focus on what’s really driving the disconnection like reactive cycles, emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and unresolved resentment.
This podcast is for couples who want to:
- break the cycle of repeating arguments
- communicate clearly without shutdowns or blowups
- resolve conflict in a way that builds connection instead of resentment
- move out of roommate mode and back into a connected partnership
You’ll learn the skills to shift your patterns, improve communication, and create a more connected, supportive marriage while you're knee deep in parenthood.
Because a strong relationship isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about knowing how to move through it together.
If you’re ready to stop having the same fight and start feeling like a team again, you’re in the right place.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
Episodes
306 episodes
Ep. 304 - A Reminder For Your Marriage
TW: LossThe biggest pitfall to your marriage isn't conflict. It's assuming you'll always have more time.A few weeks ago, I lost one of my best friends.Her passing changed the way I think about life, marriage, and the conv...
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Ep. 303 - Marriage and Fatherhood with Mike Mendez
Part of having a healthy partnership in marriage is understanding each other.As women, we often assume we have more challenges than men once we become parents but that doesn't negate any challenges that they may experience.In this...
Ep. 302 - What Your Marriage Needs To Stop Arguing And Start Connecting
Most couples aren't disconnected because they don't care. They're disconnected because they were never taught how to create a marriage that works for them.If you've tried talking more, reading relationship books, listening to podcasts, ...
Ep. 301 - Why Telling Yourself To “Be More Patient” With The Kids Doesn’t Work with Jen Driscoll
You don't need to become a perfect mom to become a calmer one.Many moms are carrying an invisible load they can't quite explain.We love their children deeply, yet find ourselves snapping more than we want to. We feel overstimula...
Ep. 300 - How To Stop Being So Reactive To Your Partner's Emotions
Most arguments don't escalate because of the issue. They escalate because of how you react to each other's emotions.If your partner gets upset and you immediately get upset too, you're not solving the problem. You're mirroring their emo...
Ep. 299 - Why Modern Motherhood Feels So Exhausting (And What To Do About It) with Dr. Amber Thornton
Modern motherhood isn't exhausting because you're doing it wrong. It's exhausting because you're carrying a load that previous generations weren't aware of.In this episode, I am joined by Psychologist and author Dr. Amber Thornton to tal...
Ep. 298 - The Mindset Shift Needed To Stop Repeating Conflict Patterns In Your Marriage
Trying to prove your point during conflict might actually be the thing keeping you disconnected.In this episode, I talk about the mindset shift that helps couples stop repeating the same arguments and start functioning like true partners...
Ep. 297 - The Tiger Mom, Panda Mom and the Crane Mom with Alice Park
Most parents are trying to heal what they didn’t receive growing up, but in the process, many are wondering if we’ve lost some of the resilience previous generations had.In this episode, I'm joined by writer and creative entrepreneur Al...
Ep. 296 - Why Conversations In Your Marriage Aren't Leading To Resolution
Just because you're talking things through with your partner, doesn't guarantee you're going resolve things.If you and your partner keep having the same conversations on repeat, this episode will help you understand why.So many ...
Ep. 295 - All About Foster Parenting with Laura
Have you ever considered foster parenting?In this episode, I am joined by Foster Parent Partner, Laura to talk about what foster parenting actually looks like behind the scenes.Laura shares about the emotional realities of caring...
Ep. 294 - Why Your Conversations Keep Turning Into Arguments In Your Marriage
If it seems like your conversations with your partner always end in arguments and issues never get resolved, it's not that you need to talk more. It's that the way you two talk isn't working anymore.In this episode, I break down why so ...
Ep. 293 - Supporting Someone Through Child Loss and Deep Grief with Jenny Kim
Grief changes everything. And most people were never taught how to navigate it, especially when it comes to child loss.In this episode, I am joined by author and grief advocate, Jenny Kim, to talk about child loss, grief support, emotio...
Ep. 292 - The Skill That Changes Everything with Conflict In Your Marriage
Part 2 of the mini series: Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the PatternConflict is inevitable in marriage.But arguing in circles, escalating every conversation, and walking away feeling more discon...
Ep. 291 - The Best Way Parents Can Keep Their Kids Safe with Francesca Douglass-Franco
Keeping your kids safe isn’t just about rules, it’s about your relationship with them.In this conversation, I got to chat with Child Safety Strategist, Francesca Douglass Franco to talk about what actually protects kids in today’s world....
Ep. 290 - How to Stop Marriage Conflict Before It Spirals
Part 1 of the mini series: Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the PatternArguments don’t fall apart at the end. They fall apart in a moment you’re not noticing.If you’ve ever felt like your conversat...
Ep. 289 - The Midlife Marriage Wake-Up Call No One Talks About with Mikki Gardner
Midlife doesn’t ruin marriages. It reveals what’s been ignored.If you’ve ever looked at your relationship and thought“How did we get here?”or“Why does everything suddenly feel so hard?”You’re not alone and your marri...
Ep. 288 - Why You Keep Having The Same Fight On Repeat
Feel like you're constantly arguing with your partner? You’re not having different arguments, you’re actually stuck repeating the same pattern.If you feel like you and your partner keep going in circles… talking about the same things… a...
Ep. 287 - Raising A Child Who Listens And Trusts You with Cara Tyrrell
The way you talk to your kids becomes the way they talk to themselves.Most parents are trying their best to raise kind, confident, emotionally healthy kids and without realizing it, the words we use and how we say them can either build c...
Ep. 286 - From Roommates to Deeply Connected In Your Marriage (What’s Missing)
You don’t feel disconnected in your marriage because something is wrong. You feel disconnected because you’ve stopped going deeper.So many couples come to me saying they feel like roommates.They’re handling life.They love e...
Ep. 285 - How To Stop Overthinking Everything In Motherhood Using Human Design with MaKenzie Byram
Motherhood can bring on a lot of anxiety. The sheer overwhelm of going from just taking care of yourself to taking care of people who don't always want to listen is nothing you can ever fully prepare for. Cue the second guessing and the shouldi...
Ep. 284 - Being A Good Partner Doesn't Require Overfunctioning In Marriage
Doing more doesn’t make you a better partner. It makes you exhausted, resentful, and disconnected.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the mental load, keeping everything running, and wondering why your partner isn’t stepping up… thi...
Ep. 283 - How To Adapt To Your Changing Metabolism In Perimenopause with Emily Erb
Your body isn’t broken. It just needs a different approach.If you’ve hit your late 30s or 40s and suddenly feel like nothing is working anymore… you’re not imagining it.The strategies that used to “just work” stop working — and ...
Ep. 282 - What Actually Changes Your Marriage
The fastest way to change your marriage is not by getting your partner to change.If your marriage has been feeling heavy, tense, or stuck in the same arguments on repeat… you’re not alone.Most couples believe things will finally ...
Ep. 281 - From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust in Motherhood with Taylor Nosakhere
So many women are living lives that look right on the outside…but internally feel off, overwhelming, or unfulfilling.In this episode, I am joined by Intuition Coach, Taylor Nosakhere to unpack what intuition actually is, why so many...
Ep. 280 - Why Calm Conversations Aren't Enough To Feel Connected In Your Marriage
Staying calm in conflict doesn’t mean your conversation is actually working.If you’ve ever walked away from a calm conversation with your partner and thought…“Okay, but nothing actually changed…” — this episode is for you.In...