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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything, including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels stuck having the same arguments on repeat, disconnected from your partner, or like you’ve slipped into roommate mode filled with resentment and tension, you’re not alone and your relationship isn’t broken.
Welcome to The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast.
I’m Michelle Purta, mom of 3, marriage coach, and I help couples understand and shift the communication patterns that keep them stuck so they can rebuild connection, strengthen their partnership, and feel like an "us" again.
Each week, you’ll learn how to navigate marriage and motherhood with better communication, emotional awareness, and practical conflict resolution tools that actually work in real life.
We go beyond surface-level advice and focus on what’s really driving the disconnection like reactive cycles, emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and unresolved resentment.
This podcast is for couples who want to:
- break the cycle of repeating arguments
- communicate clearly without shutdowns or blowups
- resolve conflict in a way that builds connection instead of resentment
- move out of roommate mode and back into a connected partnership
You’ll learn the skills to shift your patterns, improve communication, and create a more connected, supportive marriage while you're knee deep in parenthood.
Because a strong relationship isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about knowing how to move through it together.
If you’re ready to stop having the same fight and start feeling like a team again, you’re in the right place.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
Episodes
294 episodes
Ep. 292 - The Skill That Changes Everything with Conflict In Your Marriage
Part 2 of the mini series: Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the PatternConflict is inevitable in marriage.But arguing in circles, escalating every conversation, and walking away feeling more discon...
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Ep. 291 - The Best Way Parents Can Keep Their Kids Safe with Francesca Douglass-Franco
Keeping your kids safe isn’t just about rules, it’s about your relationship with them.In this conversation, I got to chat with Child Safety Strategist, Francesca Douglass Franco to talk about what actually protects kids in today’s world....
Ep. 290 - How to Stop Marriage Conflict Before It Spirals
Part 1 of the mini series: Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the PatternArguments don’t fall apart at the end. They fall apart in a moment you’re not noticing.If you’ve ever felt like your conversat...
Ep. 289 - The Midlife Marriage Wake-Up Call No One Talks About with Mikki Gardner
Midlife doesn’t ruin marriages. It reveals what’s been ignored.If you’ve ever looked at your relationship and thought“How did we get here?”or“Why does everything suddenly feel so hard?”You’re not alone and your marri...
Ep. 288 - Why You Keep Having The Same Fight On Repeat
Feel like you're constantly arguing with your partner? You’re not having different arguments, you’re actually stuck repeating the same pattern.If you feel like you and your partner keep going in circles… talking about the same things… a...
Ep. 287 - Raising A Child Who Listens And Trusts You with Cara Tyrrell
The way you talk to your kids becomes the way they talk to themselves.Most parents are trying their best to raise kind, confident, emotionally healthy kids and without realizing it, the words we use and how we say them can either build c...
Ep. 286 - From Roommates to Deeply Connected In Your Marriage (What’s Missing)
You don’t feel disconnected in your marriage because something is wrong. You feel disconnected because you’ve stopped going deeper.So many couples come to me saying they feel like roommates.They’re handling life.They love e...
Ep. 285 - How To Stop Overthinking Everything In Motherhood Using Human Design with MaKenzie Byram
Motherhood can bring on a lot of anxiety. The sheer overwhelm of going from just taking care of yourself to taking care of people who don't always want to listen is nothing you can ever fully prepare for. Cue the second guessing and the shouldi...
Ep. 284 - Being A Good Partner Doesn't Require Overfunctioning In Marriage
Doing more doesn’t make you a better partner. It makes you exhausted, resentful, and disconnected.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the mental load, keeping everything running, and wondering why your partner isn’t stepping up… thi...
Ep. 283 - How To Adapt To Your Changing Metabolism In Perimenopause with Emily Erb
Your body isn’t broken. It just needs a different approach.If you’ve hit your late 30s or 40s and suddenly feel like nothing is working anymore… you’re not imagining it.The strategies that used to “just work” stop working — and ...
Ep. 282 - What Actually Changes Your Marriage
The fastest way to change your marriage is not by getting your partner to change.If your marriage has been feeling heavy, tense, or stuck in the same arguments on repeat… you’re not alone.Most couples believe things will finally ...
Ep. 281 - From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust in Motherhood with Taylor Nosakhere
So many women are living lives that look right on the outside…but internally feel off, overwhelming, or unfulfilling.In this episode, I am joined by Intuition Coach, Taylor Nosakhere to unpack what intuition actually is, why so many...
Ep. 280 - Why Calm Conversations Aren't Enough To Feel Connected In Your Marriage
Staying calm in conflict doesn’t mean your conversation is actually working.If you’ve ever walked away from a calm conversation with your partner and thought…“Okay, but nothing actually changed…” — this episode is for you.In...
Ep. 279 - Nervous System Regulation & Breathwork In Motherhood with Ashlee Livingstone
Your reactions aren’t random — they’re regulated (or dysregulated).If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I react like that?” — this episode is for you.In this episode, I am joined by Personal Growth C...
Ep. 278 - Ending The Conflict Loop
Most arguments don’t spiral because of the original issue. They spiral because couples start reacting to each other instead of understanding each other.One partner gets upset.The other partner reacts to their partner being upset.
Ep. 277 - Why Kids Don’t Listen the First Time (And What Actually Works Instead) with Becky Jennings
Most kids don’t ignore their parents because they’re disrespectful. They ignore them because their brain isn’t developmentally ready to respond yet.If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same instruction five times before your chil...
Ep. 276 - How To Restore Connection In Your Marriage After Kids
Have you felt more and more disconnected from your partner after having kids? Most couples don’t stop loving each other after kids. They just stop prioritizing their marriage and that's what causes the disconnect.After kids enter the pi...
Ep. 275 - How Inner Child Healing Changes the Way You Parent with Lavinia Brown
Have you ever reacted to your kids in a way that brought on feelings of guilt and shame? Looking back, have you ever felt surprised by how strongly you reacted when you lost your cool or struggled to stay calm when the kids aren't listening?
Ep. 274 - Emotional Maturity In Marriage
Emotional maturity is the difference between repeating patterns and transforming your marriage into a relationship that gets better and better.In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I break down what emotional maturit...
Ep. 273 - Why Letting Your Kids Be Bored Is Important with Lizzie Assa
Letting your kids be bored isn't a failure on your part. Boredom is actually essential for your kid's development.In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I am joined by Lizzie Assa, founder of The Workspace for Children...
Ep. 272 - How To Have Consensual Conversations With Your Spouse
One person wanting to talk and the other shutting down doesn’t mean one of you cares more. It means your nervous systems cope differently.If you feel like you’re always the one trying to talk things through — or you’re the one who shuts...
Ep. 271 - Growing Up With Immigrant Parents: The Patterns That Follow Us In Marriage and Motherhood with Dr. Stacey Litam
Growing up with immigrant parents shapes how we love, communicate, and show up in marriage.In this powerful conversation, I am joined by Dr. Stacey Litam, licensed professional clinical counselor and author of
Ep. 270 - Why Your Conversations Are Failing Even When You're Doing Everything Right
Most communication breakdowns happen before anyone even starts talking.If you’ve ever walked into a conversation with your spouse calm and they still got defensive or shutdown, this episode is for you.In this episode, I break do...
Ep. 269 - How To Stop Feeling Like You're Always Playing Catch-Up with Jill Wright
If you constantly feel like you can’t keep up or get ahead with time, this episode will change how you see productivity.In this episode, I am joined by Jill Wright, time management expert and creator of the Time Magic System, to talk ab...
Ep. 268 - Navigating Valentine's Day When Your Marriage Is Rocky
Valentine’s Day can feel heavy when your marriage isn’t where you want it to be — and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something is asking for your attention.If Valentine’s Day brings up disappointment, sadness, resentment, or...