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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything, including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels stuck having the same arguments on repeat, disconnected from your partner, or like you’ve slipped into roommate mode filled with resentment and tension, you’re not alone and your relationship isn’t broken.
Welcome to The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast.
I’m Michelle Purta, mom of 3, marriage coach, and I help couples understand and shift the communication patterns that keep them stuck so they can rebuild connection, strengthen their partnership, and feel like an "us" again.
Each week, you’ll learn how to navigate marriage and motherhood with better communication, emotional awareness, and practical conflict resolution tools that actually work in real life.
We go beyond surface-level advice and focus on what’s really driving the disconnection like reactive cycles, emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and unresolved resentment.
This podcast is for couples who want to:
- break the cycle of repeating arguments
- communicate clearly without shutdowns or blowups
- resolve conflict in a way that builds connection instead of resentment
- move out of roommate mode and back into a connected partnership
You’ll learn the skills to shift your patterns, improve communication, and create a more connected, supportive marriage while you're knee deep in parenthood.
Because a strong relationship isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about knowing how to move through it together.
If you’re ready to stop having the same fight and start feeling like a team again, you’re in the right place.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Ep. 227 - Fighting Fair: Setting Ground Rules for Conflict
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Conflict is inevitable in marriage—but arguing is optional.
In this episode, I’m breaking down how to set ground rules for conflict so you can stop letting arguments spiral and start using disagreements as opportunities to grow closer.
We often inherit the way we fight from how we grew up. Without intentional guidelines, fights quickly turn into defensiveness, blame, and stonewalling. But when you and your partner set ground rules together, conflict becomes a space for trust, intimacy, and partnership.
Tune in to learn:
- Why conflict doesn’t have to damage your marriage
- The difference between conflict and arguing (and why it matters)
- How ground rules create emotional safety during disagreements
- Practical examples of fighting fair (no name-calling, one issue at a time, pausing if emotions get too high, practicing repair)
- Why repair and reconnection are just as important as the fight itself
If you find yourself avoiding fights because they always escalate, or if you keep having the same argument without resolution, these tools will help you shift the way you communicate and finally break that cycle.
When you know how to set rules for healthy conflict, you’ll feel more like teammates—even when you disagree.
Grab my Conflict To Connection Guide here!
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Additional Resources:
- Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage? Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
- Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
- Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!