The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast
If you're a mama whose marriage has become increasingly disconnected and difficult after kids, this podcast is for you. Join host Michelle Purta each week as she has open and honest conversations about what it takes to have a successful and healthy marriage focusing on healthy communication and deep connection.
While mom life can feel rewarding, it can also feel like losing yourself. You trade in your self care for self sacrifice and your marriage takes a backseat or no seat at all as you juggle this crazy life where it feels like all you do is chores, take care of the kids, and work.
Well, here is the space where you get to be reminded that you don't have to choose between being a good mom and having a great marriage. Being happily married is a skill and skills can be learned, so tune in weekly to get your dose of how to upgrade your experience of marriage through motherhood!
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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast
Ep. 227 - Fighting Fair: Setting Ground Rules for Conflict
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Conflict is inevitable in marriage—but arguing is optional.
In this episode, I’m breaking down how to set ground rules for conflict so you can stop letting arguments spiral and start using disagreements as opportunities to grow closer.
We often inherit the way we fight from how we grew up. Without intentional guidelines, fights quickly turn into defensiveness, blame, and stonewalling. But when you and your partner set ground rules together, conflict becomes a space for trust, intimacy, and partnership.
Tune in to learn:
- Why conflict doesn’t have to damage your marriage
- The difference between conflict and arguing (and why it matters)
- How ground rules create emotional safety during disagreements
- Practical examples of fighting fair (no name-calling, one issue at a time, pausing if emotions get too high, practicing repair)
- Why repair and reconnection are just as important as the fight itself
If you find yourself avoiding fights because they always escalate, or if you keep having the same argument without resolution, these tools will help you shift the way you communicate and finally break that cycle.
When you know how to set rules for healthy conflict, you’ll feel more like teammates—even when you disagree.
Grab my Conflict To Connection Guide here!
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Additional Resources:
- Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage? Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
- Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
- Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!