The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast
If you're a mama whose marriage has become increasingly disconnected and difficult after kids, this podcast is for you. Join host Michelle Purta each week as she has open and honest conversations about what it takes to have a successful and healthy marriage focusing on healthy communication and deep connection.
While mom life can feel rewarding, it can also feel like losing yourself. You trade in your self care for self sacrifice and your marriage takes a backseat or no seat at all as you juggle this crazy life where it feels like all you do is chores, take care of the kids, and work.
Well, here is the space where you get to be reminded that you don't have to choose between being a good mom and having a great marriage. Being happily married is a skill and skills can be learned, so tune in weekly to get your dose of how to upgrade your experience of marriage through motherhood!
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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast
Ep. 233 - The Roommate Phase: How to Recognize and Stop It
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Marriage was never meant to feel like co-managing a household.
Yet for so many couples, that’s exactly where they find themselves—the roommate phase. You’re dividing chores, trading off bedtime routines, updating each other on logistics… but emotional intimacy, laughter, and closeness are nowhere to be found.
In this episode, I share:
- What the roommate phase is and why so many couples end up here after kids
- What creates this disconnection
- Three clear signs you’re in the roommate phase (and what that means for your relationship)
- Why this phase won’t fix itself once kids get older—and what to do instead
- Small, practical ways to rebuild connection without overhauling your entire schedule
The good news? This phase doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It just means you’ve slipped into survival mode. And with awareness, small intentional steps, and consistency—you can shift from living like roommates to truly being partners again.
Resources & Next Steps:
- Grab my free Conflict to Connection Guide to process your thoughts and feelings before bringing them up to your spouse
- Ready for a complete reset in your marriage? Book a free Clarity Call with me here!
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Additional Resources:
- Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage? Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
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- Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!